Great Nephew Loves Nail Polish

I have a four year old great nephew who loves playing with barbies, wearing nail polish, dressing up as princesses and enjoys dancing. His mother wants him to do what makes him happy so she buys some of those things for him. His father wants him to play football, play with trucks and wear nothing but boy colored clothing. There is some tension between the two on how they should raise their little boy!

When I went to his fourth birthday party, his mom had a list of items he would like for gifts. Everything on the list were items the father wanted him to have. The list did not seem like they were things my great nephew wanted.

I want him to be happy playing with what he wants to play with, wear the things he wants to wear and do the activities that make him happy. Should I chat with my niece regarding this or keep my thoughts to myself? What would you do??

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2 thoughts on “Great Nephew Loves Nail Polish

  1. Your post reminds me of Tomie DaPaolo’s book, Oliver Button is a Sissy. In that book, the father figure finally begins to see that his son doesn’t enjoy doing things traditionally considered “boyish”, like playing football. In fact, Oliver (the son) wants to dance…so the parents enroll him in a dance class. I think a conversation with your niece (maybe share this book with her?) is warranted. Like you wrote, “I want him to be happy playing with what he wants to play with, wear the things he wants to wear and do the activities that make him happy.” This seems the most loving and just position.

  2. Wow, that’s a tough one. Sometimes asking “Would you like to talk about ___?” can let you know if someone is looking for some advice or guidance. Helping her find some resources on what child development experts have to say could be a neutral way to offer some support. I have a feeling many families have dealt with this same situation. Good luck to that little boy.

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